Where Have You Been All My Life?
Posted: March 17, 2019
Good Sunday Evening to All!!!
Welcome to my New Subscribers and hey to the family and followers who have been connected with me since I launched my book, Women of Color: Psychological Narratives on Trauma and Depression in 2018!
This evening I am reflecting on the insights I learned last week from the sessions with my clients and my personal life reflections. Let me say this…many of us are stuck in our comfortable narrative because it’s easy to say, “Well, it is what it is.” “That’s the way it’s always been.” “It’s ok to not be okay, right?”
Your comfortable narrative makes you believe that right now where you are in your life, career, and relationships, is all there is.
Your comfortable narrative speaks to your level complacency and your unwillingness (resistance, fear, anxiety) to step outside of your comfort zone to do the work to manifest the dreams and goals God placed inside of you.
Your comfortable narrative colludes with your reality that you are not responsible for where you are in life; that life just dealt you a bad hand. Guess what? You may not be responsible for what happened to you, but you are responsible for your healing.
Three strategies to move you from your comfortable narrative to one that moves you closer to authenticity to manifest healing, wholeness, and dream fulfillment.
1. Yes, it’s okay to not be okay. But don’t stop there. Don’t accept that as a rule for your life and an excuse to stay stuck. Say, “It’s okay not to be okay, and I’m working on…my fitness goals, my relationships, my finances, etc.” “I’m not okay, and I’m working in therapy to be better.” I’m not okay, and I’m trusting God and praying for healing.” “I’m not okay, and this feeling is temporary.”
2. Journal your way to your dream manifestation and healing. Some days I am so exhausted and I feel like giving up. I find time to get still (even if it’s only 5 minutes) and I ask God questions, like, “God what’s going on? I ‘m feeling_____________and my thoughts are_________.” Here’s what I realized. When I got still even for just that few moments, I got closer in alignment to what God had spoken to me about regarding my situation. Not a client. Not my hubby. Not my financial stress. Straight up, no chaser-I had to look at me AND I got answers, insight, revelation and wisdom.
3. Connect. It’s important to disconnect from impersonal and distance interactions and touch and talk to people. Our society is becoming increasingly anxious and depressed because we are detached from our humanness.
Well, that’s it for this evening. Where have you been all my life? speaks to the absence of my being more connected with you beyond social media. I promise to blog at least once a month if you promise to stay connected, comment and share so that we all can connect on a deeper, more authentic level.
In our wellness, Dr. Angela Clack
