Are We Giving Ourselves Good Gifts

I was so excited to see the soulful Mary J Blige on the February 6, 2023 cover of People magazine. This is an exclusive edition as part of Black History Month. And of course, I love her new song, “Good Morning, Gorgeous” that’s been on my playlist for months.

In her six-page spread, her story is titled, Faith, Fame & Finding My True Self.  Mary spoke about being humble to a fault in her earlier years. She said, “…work feels different these days…I can receive all the gifts,” referencing her six Grammy nominations for her latest album, Good Morning, Gorgeous and her multiple award-winning shows and nominations. Mary admits that much earlier in her career she didn’t care about herself and didn’t love herself. She noted that a lot of people are going through the same thing and that as a healed woman she chooses to use her music to uplift others.

What I found most striking was the end paragraph which led me to focus on the article. Mary said:” I am a Black woman. I work hard and give hard, and bless people and treat people kind and never forget where we came from. We came from people not letting us have this or do this. We have to give ourselves a break and give the gifts to ourselves. “

When was the last time you gave yourself the gift of self-love, compassion, grace, or peace? We give so much of ourselves away to other people and other pursuits often left feeling exhausted and unappreciated.  Today, I challenge you to make it a part of your daily ritual to start your day by giving yourself good gifts.

Start your day with positive affirmations that are personal. Not just any positive mantra you heard on another social media shout-out. Affirmations are most powerful when they are personal.  It must mean something to you and what you want in life, love, and relationships, meaning the relationship with yourself.

Today, I chose to love myself greater than the day before in spite of what I feel.

Today, I chose to hold space for myself when I think to hold space for others. I matter.

 Whether rain or sunshine, I will not allow others to dull my shine.

What will be your personal affirmations?

I would love to hear from you.

If you feel compelled please share your personal affirmations.

As Mary J said it best, “I’ve learned that no one can love me like me. Nobody can.

In Your Wellness,

Dr. Clack

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